Relationship Therapy
Imagine A Life Where Your Relationships Feel Healthy And Connected
Imagine the possibility of waking up knowing that you are seen, heard, valued, and loved by the people who matter most to you. Imagine that you have a romantic partner who is invested in meeting your needs and friends who are there for you when you need them.
At the moment, this kind of life might be hard to picture. You might be in a relationship or marriage where you feel unheard or underappreciated. Perhaps you feel alone in the world and you’re struggling to make lasting friendships. Maybe you’re experiencing conflict with a family member and feel like you’re walking on eggshells whenever they’re around.
The daily stress of your relationship struggles could be too much to carry. For the first time, you might be thinking of talking to a therapist.
Disconnection Often Leads To Existential Dread And Fear For The Future
Genuine self-connection is the bedrock of meaningful relationships and a sense of purpose. When you don’t feel connected to yourself, it can be hard to feel connected to others. Moreover, when you don’t feel connected to others, it can be hard to feel grounded and tethered to a greater purpose. The longer we struggle to let people in, the more we naturally incline toward a mindset of self-doubt, creating ample space for our inner critic to distort our outlook and limit our perspective.
Over time, this deep sense of disconnection can create a terrifying sense of uncertainty. You might start wrestling with existential questions like: Will I always feel this lonely? Will I ever find my person? Will my loved ones ever respect me for who I am?
If this is how you’ve been feeling, I would be honored to offer you my unwavering support. Whether you want to form more meaningful friendships, reignite the spark with your partner, or create more harmony in your home, I am confident that counseling can empower you to overcome negative patterns and helpyou foster and enjoy deeper relationships.
Human Connections Are Complex And Ever-Evolving
We all share a universal set of needs for love, understanding, safety, affection, and validation. Yet our diverse backgrounds, experiences, attachment styles, and emotional wounds can make satisfying these needs complicated. No two people will ever see eye to eye completely—conflict and misunderstanding are inevitable.
What’s more, we are all in a process of continual growth and transformation. So many people say “I’ve found my person” without anticipating that that person will change over the course of a lifetime. There is wisdom in accepting the reality of change and knowing that change is an essential part of being human. Relationships aren’t static because people aren’t static.
In Bustling California, Meaningful Relationships Are Hard To Come By
The traffic congestion, high cost of living, general busyness, and access to many wonderous places, events, and activities make it hard for us to invest quality time and energy into relationships. Many of us have so many commitments that we feel stretched thin. Even though we run into so many people every day, the need to go, go, and go prevents us from slowing down and fostering deeper connections.
Therapy is a chance to slow down and model the kind of supportive connection that you’re longing for. My goal is to walk by your side and support you as you seek to build healthier relationships with others.
Counseling Can Help You Build Healthy, Stable, And Thriving Relationships
If you haven’t witnessed healing and growth in past relationships, it becomes hard to imagine it ever happening for yourself. This often causes a sense of learned helplessness—you settle for less-than-healthy connections because you question whether anything else is possible.
In counseling, my goal is to infuse your life with newfound hope and help you discover that you are worthy and capable of loving relationships. My sessions provide a safe, nurturing space to explore your attachment patterns, emotional landscape, and core needs. By getting to know yourself on a deeper level, you can become more aware of what you need and long for in relationships with yourself and others.
What To Expect In Relationship Therapy Sessions
My approach is grounded in the most recent research while being flexible to the unique needs of each client. Whether you need support due to a friendship issue, a workplace conflict, a family relationship, troubles with dating, or a marriage or partnership, my approach to counseling can accommodate you.
In sessions together, you and I will work on making the “implicit, explicit,” allowing you to understand the unconscious patterns that prevent you from having healthy connections. You’ll learn to form your own boundaries, communicate your needs clearly and kindly, and turn toward the other person in times of conflict instead of turning away. This way, there can be more patience, compassion, and emotional security within the space of your relationships.
Additionally, I want to help you experiment with understanding yourself, other people, and what you truly want in life. Through learning to experiment, the fear of failure and shame will naturally decrease over time, fostering a fuller sense of empowerment and courage. This can help you become more confident in establishing boundaries, resolving conflict, and navigating communication challenges.
Creating Your Relationship Counseling Plan
My approach to therapy integrates neuroscience and evidence-based practices in order to provide you with the best care possible. I use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), which focuses on decreasing negative patterns that keep you stuck while strengthening emotional bonds in order to create a sense of safety and closeness within your relationships. Through a humanistic and attachment-based lens, EFT offers a safe space for exploration, emotional validation, and understanding. By improving communication, fostering emotional responsiveness, and reshaping interaction patterns, you can experience renewed closeness, trust, and fulfillment in your relationships.
I also utilize Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB) to provide a strong neurobiological foundation for understanding your attachment history, relationship patterns, emotions, and behaviors. Together, we’ll explore how your past experiences have shaped your brain functioning and work on developing new neural connections that support more positive relationship outcomes. Overall, this integrative approach can help you understand your own emotions and behaviors as well as those of your partner. By addressing the underlying emotional and neurological factors that contribute to relationship issues, you can develop greater self-awareness, empathy, and resilience. This can lead to more satisfying and fulfilling connections in your personal and professional life.
Through using this comprehensive and integrative approach, I am confident that I can help you harness your potential for deeper connections and build resilient and thriving relationships with yourself and others.
You May Have Some Questions About Relationship Counseling…
Will therapy really make a difference?
Doubts are a normal part of change. Your concern lets me know that relationships are deeply important to you and you want to experience something new and lasting. Therapy can work wonders as long as you trust the process and are willing to engage in it. By consistently experimenting with what you want in relationships, I’m confident that you can find something that works for you.
Can therapy help me see results in my relationships quickly?
Although it would be ideal, you can’t eat the fruit the same day that you plant the seed. Everyone heals at their own pace. It’s understandable to want to feel better as soon as possible—but in reality, going step-by-step is the fastest way through. Your commitment and active participation in therapy will greatly influence the speed and depth of the healing process. By focusing on core relationship needs, working to heal past wounds, and expressing attachment fears and longings, we can facilitate transformative moments that have a lasting impact.
What if therapy uncovers painful issues and brings up more relationship problems?
Just as you have to apply pressure to a pain point when alleviating strain within the body, sometimes counseling requires delving into tough topics in order to make things better. That said, your emotional safety is paramount to me. I will always strive to guide you at a pace that feels safe and productive for you. Although counseling may uncover relationship problems that you weren’t aware of, I will help you build the resilience to work through those issues carefully and confidently.
You Are Worthy Of Emotional Security In Your Relationships
As a therapist, my role is ultimately to help you recognize your true worth, strengthen your sense of self, and assist you in using your inner resources to initiate healing and transformation in your relationships. To get started, you can email me or call 949-342-6672.
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